Why I write about real intimacy
Let’s face it.
What we all want when it comes to our relationships is not toxic, dark romance. Neither is it just mindless sex or one-night stands.
In a world filled with ever-growing uncertainty, what we want is real, deep intimacy.
Intimacy is often confused with sex, but in actuality, it involves feeling deeply emotionally connected with another person and a desire to be deeply known.
Intimacy takes time to develop and mature, like a garden or fine wine. Not everyone experiences it in their relationships.
This is because intimacy involves being vulnerable. It requires taking emotional risks (the thick and thin, people!) and working through the fear of letting another person see you as you truly are. It involves trust, caring, acceptance, safety, and connection.
To nurture intimacy, you must be willing to show all sides of yourself, embrace differences, grow from conflict, and choose your partners wisely.
My books and stories focus on writing romance stories that celebrate genuine intimacy.
As a writer, I’m dedicated to producing romantic tales that emphasise and celebrate the authentic connection between two individuals. My stories are crafted with the intention of capturing the essence of genuine intimacy and showcasing it in a way that resonates with readers.
My ‘Sovereign Kings series’ is focused on real intimacy. Set in Australia’s famous northern coastal city of Byron Bay. it follows two mature adults as they fight their feelings, their growing intimacy and their enemies in a steamy, sensual sensational story.
My ‘Sable Riders’ series is about intimacy between friends - who are alone in a future universe, without family. And how they band together to create a whole new world for themselves.
My passion lies in crafting stories that delve into the beauty and intricacies of genuine affection, highlighting both its magnificence and imperfections. Through my writing, I try to capture the essence of true love and bring it to life on the pages of my books, igniting the hearts of readers and inspiring them to cherish their precious intimacy.
To inspire you more, below are 18 quotes on intimacy and love demonstrating their beauty and timelessness.
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It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.
— John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love
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I wonder if this is how people always get close: They heal each other’s wounds; they repair the broken skin.
— Lauren Oliver
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Most people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way.
— Aberjhani
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True love is not a hide and seek game: in true love, both lovers seek each other.
— Michael Bassey Johnson
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The deepest moments of intimacy occur when you’re not talking.
— Patricia Love
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Can the purpose of a relationship be to trigger our wounds? In a way, yes, because that is how healing happens; darkness must be exposed before it can be transformed. The purpose of an intimate relationship is not that it be a place where we can hide from our weaknesses, but rather where we can safely let them go. It takes strength of character to truly delve into the mystery of an intimate relationship, because it takes the strength to endure a kind of psychic surgery, an emotional and psychological and even spiritual initiation into the higher Self. Only then can we know an enchantment that lasts.
— Marianne Williamson
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They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered.
— F. Scott Fitzgerald
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Love is like breathing. You take it in and let it out.
— Wally Lamb
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Intimacy is a totally different dimension. It is allowing the other to come into you, to see you as you see yourself.
— Osho
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Real intimacy is a sacred experience. It never exposes its secret trust and belonging to the voyeuristic eye of a neon culture. Real intimacy is of the soul, and the soul is reserved.
— John O'Donohue
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Intimacy is not something that just happens between two people; it is a way of being alive. At every moment, we are choosing either to reveal ourselves or to protect ourselves, to value ourselves or to diminish ourselves, to tell the truth or to hide. To dive into life or to avoid it. Intimacy is making the choice to be connected to, rather than isolated from, our deepest truth at that moment.
— Geneen Roth
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It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy—it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others.
— Jane Austen
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If you love a person and live the whole life with him or with her, a great intimacy will grow and love will have deeper and deeper revelations to make to you. It is not possible if you go on changing partners very often. It is as if you go on changing a tree from one place to another, then another; then it never grows roots anywhere. To grow roots, a tree needs to remain in one place. Then it goes deeper; then it becomes stronger. Intimacy is good, and to remain in one commitment is beautiful, but the basic necessity is love. If a tree is rooted in a place where there are only rocks and they are killing the tree, then it is better to remove it. Then don’t insist that it should remain in the one place. Remain true to life – remove the tree, because now it is going against life.
— Osho
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If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.
— Henri Nouwen
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Real intimacy is only possible to the degree that we can be honest about what we are doing and feeling.
— Joyce Brothers
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My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.
— Maya Angelou
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Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
— Ann Landers
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To grow in our ability to love ourselves we need to receive love as well.
— John Gray